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expelumos:am i being a little bitch about it or am i actually allowed to be hurt by that: a novel by...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 11:03:28 +0200

am i being a little bitch about it or am i actually allowed to be hurt by that: a novel by me

help me find the girl who was my first kiss

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 14:34:20 +0200

ok i know this is the biggest stretch but I’m looking for a girl who kissed me the night of nyc pride. Mystery Girl: You were somewhere around hudson street in manhattan and I was a little drunk. you had shoulder length brown hair (I think??) and were so pretty. You were walking with someone else too. I was wearing a ringer tee. you overheard me say that I hadn’t kissed a girl yet and offered to kiss me. and then you kissed me like it meant something.

reblog this if u want to see me be able to fully thank this person for giving me a night I’ll never forget and for ridding me of any doubts that I am so gay. uh so Mystery Girl if you exist and weren’t a figment of my drunk imagination, message me?

Emotional Consent

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 11:10:52 +0200

curlicuecal:

qcrip:

I’ve always been hesitant to post about this because I’m worried people will take it as a personal offense and I just want to say in advance this isn’t “@ anyone” or a callout even

I just feel like emotional consent as a concept is rarely talked about and therefore it’s often breached unknowingly (hence why I don’t never get mad at anyone specific for breaching it), and also I think it’s important I make this post. I didn’t learn what it was till I was older, and most people don’t.

Essentially “emotional consent” is a mutual understanding and willing agreement between both parties when discussing directly emotional or potentially emotionally loaded questions.

I’m going to start with examples, and I know it might feel bad at first if you recognize you do some of them (it’s okay, we all do from time to time), but please keep reading because I promise I’ll get onto alternative dialogues and solution

Here are some examples of what a breach of emotional consent can look like- not all the ways of course, but the major ones off the top of my head:

Venting to someone without warning or established boundaries this can look like starting a conversation by venting, or detailing graphic information seemingly out of nowhere and without effective trigger warnings. This can put people in situations where they feel like they have to respond, even if they’re not emotionally equipped, if they’re busy, or if they don’t have the spoons. Of course, usually this wasn’t the intent of the venter, but still has the same effect. FYI- this includes celebrities, social media icons, and people you admire.

Talking graphically about sex, masturbation, or anything in that range without warning or established boundaries this can look like anything from sharing a funny sexual escapade with your friends, and dirty jokes, to sexual harassment and telling someone hows bad you want to fuck them despite not knowing how they feel about it. Sometimes in these scenarios, people can appear visibly comfortable in attempt to fit in and not seem prudish, or to avoid awkward confrontation. This can also be especially sensitive because this is a topic that can very easily and unexpectedly bring up traumas and insecurities along with the discomfort, and it can perpetuate rape culture.

Using pet-names and romantic implications, even platonically, without established consent this one was tough for me to swallow at first because I love pet names and I love using them platonically to show love. But even more, I want the people I love to feel comfortable and safe around me. Some people have deeper more negatively charged, or more intensely charged feelings around pet names than I do, and I wouldn’t want to subject them to that. Some people are also comfortable with certain pet names and not others. Also things like calling platonic meetups dates, cuddling, and platonically holding hands mean different things to different people, which is important to respect.

Showing people media or sending articles or news with heavy emotional content either without warning, or with the expectation of discussion part of this is about including trigger warnings, and making sure viewing triggering content is optional in spaces and interactions we have control over. Another part though, is the fact that we often expect people to have interactions and discussions with us about emotionally charged topics, including politics, crime, oppression, natural disasters, etc. without fully understanding how this can affect the other person.

Telling someone they’re the only person you feel comfortable telling something to, or be open with this one sucks because it usually (except in cases of abuse) comes out of genuine care and wanting to make the other person feel special. That being said, no matter how you phrase it, it can put a massive responsibility on the person that similar to my first example, can make them feel obligated to help even when they’re not in an appropriate place to.

Expecting people to share personal or intimate information a lot of times we ask emotionally loaded questions because we care about and are interested in the lives of our loved ones. That being said, if we’re not careful people can really feel obligated to share information they’re not prepared to, or don’t want to process at the moment. This can look like “How’s your health been?” “How are you handling [life event]?” and “Why didn’t you tell me sooner?”

so now the more pleasant part! What can it look like to prioritize emotional consent instead- these correspond in order of initial bullets

Starting vague and asking if it’s okay an example dialogue could be “I’m feeling crappy about [blank] are you up to listen to me talk about it?” I also love to add “or should I try [alternative coping method/talking to someone else right now?]” to the end of that if I have one so the other person knows if they say no I have something to turn to. Another example could be “Would it be alright for me to vent right now? FYI it may include mentions of [possible triggers] so if you’re not up for it right now I understand?” or simply “Are you comfortable with me talking about [blank?]”. Also talking to a celebrity or idol “You really helped me with [blank]. I don’t know if you’re comfortable with detail so I won’t elaborate, but I really appreciate it.” or “You really helped me with [blank.] [An explanation about what specifically helped or inspired you in more detail rather than graphic description of the event.]”

Again! You can just ask example dialogue can include “Can I mention something about my sex life?” “I have a joke but it’s dirty so I want to make sure thats okay with you” “Can I say something nsfw?” “Is everyone here okay with sex mentions?”

Asking still works! Example dialogue can be “Thanks [petname] (are you okay with me using that or would you rather I don’t)” “Are you okay being called [petname]?” “Are you comfortable with [intimate platonic act]?” “Do you want to [intimate platonic act]?” “I’d like to [intimate platonic act] if you’d be okay with that”

Ask/Warn ahead of time or clarify you don’t need response example dialogue “I want to process [news event] but I know it’s heavy so I wanted to ask first” “Jsyk this article contains [possible triggers] so don’t read it if you think it’d be harmful to you]” “Can I ask your opinion on [charged topic]. If you’d rather not, I understand” “[thought or link to article] FYI no need to respond. I just wanted to share.]”

Show you’re appreciation in other ways using phrases that show appreciation but don’t implicate responsibility like “Thanks for being here for me whenever you’re able to” “I really appreciate being able to talk about this with you” “It means a lot to me that I can feel so comfortable and open with you” “Being able to talk about this with you has been really helpful for me and I’m really glad I was ables to.”

Asking with an easy out or optional response examples include “Hey, I know you’re dealing with as lot and grieving right now so I absolutely don’t need a response, but I wanted to remind you if you need support in any way I’m available and have time right now.” “Do you want to talk about [emotionally charged life event] or would you rather talk about something else right now?” “I know it’s hard to talk about these things and I understand if you can’t, but I want to remind you that when you can and want to I’m available and won’t judge you.” “Would venting be helpful or draining right now?” “What’s the best way I can support you, or are you not sure right now?”

Sorry this became a long ass post but I thought it was important. I should also add that the exception of course is therapists and counselors, crisis hotlines, or other people trained and already prepared to cope with these things. but besides that- try and emo responsibly.

Oh I like this. Really good point I don’t think I’ve ever seen made quite like this.

I know kw in my family we’ve had to set up rules about when and where I can be confronted with depressing political shit.

motivate me promptguy plz

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 09:10:14 +0200

I was writing something but then ‘Hey soul sister’ came on the radio. Give me a few minutes

destructionofsanctum: bullysquadess: bullysquadess: bullysquadess: honestly? im done with the...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 09:07:55 +0200

destructionofsanctum:

bullysquadess:

bullysquadess:

bullysquadess:

honestly? im done with the lies. being little spoon fuckign sucks okay? it really does. its hot and sweaty and cramped and you better believe that arm wrapped around you is gunna go from “acceptable foreign weight” to “there is a literal blue whale colony collapsed atop you” in about 2 minutes flat. yall forreal want a FLESH BLANKET encasing you??? a goddamn slab prison of human skin and Person Tissue draped across your corporeal form??? find a God and grovel for redemption.

being big spoon though? divine. precious. it grants the sensation of being a benevolent egg white, swaddled loosely within your blanket shell as you in turn cradle the precious yolk within your grasp. you are a sublime deity of warmth and comfort, one who may bestow your blessing on any mortal you deem fit. an unparalleled joy to perform.

and you can grab a tit ty

can yall please stop reblogging this post i made after eating three entire packages of marshmallow peeps washed down with a near-deadly amount of nyquil

Just say you’re a top and move on OP

screamingfrenchfries: officialfennec: the beast: i’m gonna be cursed forever….. for who could ever...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 09:03:47 +0200

screamingfrenchfries:

officialfennec:

the beast: i’m gonna be cursed forever….. for who could ever learn to love a beast? :(

belle, local furry:

this post is my life wow

linaisbluepancake: “At least out loud I won’t say I’m in...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 22:08:53 +0200

linaisbluepancake:

“At least out loud I won’t say I’m in love”

I loved drawing this what??? Based of this ask I got x

marieincolour: powertothebaskets: jxsontxdds: bob-belcher: t...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 20:38:04 +0200

marieincolour:

powertothebaskets:

jxsontxdds:

bob-belcher:

thechanelmuse:

She went on a rant for two days. Delta got her ass together in two tweets.

Bonus:

DAAMMMNNNNN

Reblogging for chris evans’ bonus toothpaste bit

….Did he tell her to chill with emojis?

clemyntine: having a shitty dad is lgbt culture

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 12:06:20 +0200

clemyntine:

having a shitty dad is lgbt culture

seafoamwlw:the laughter of women is powerful y’all….. a girl with a cute laugh? could kill me...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 11:59:07 +0200

seafoamwlw:

the laughter of women is powerful y’all….. a girl with a cute laugh? could kill me instantly.

silversmith-91: rainbow-eeveegirl: just-shower-responses-x420: ...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 11:55:47 +0200

silversmith-91:

rainbow-eeveegirl:

just-shower-responses-x420:

map-is-not-a-real-word:

anna-hates-meanies:

map-is-not-a-real-word:

eeveelutionsforequality:

boyonetta:

sailorsun316:

jackieblue1565:

raachayes:

maddisonkennedy:

xxsmiletogetherxx:

scratch-and-rhys:

xxsmiletogetherxx:

saw this on twitter

reblog for your Texas #LGBTQ followers who may be going to Houston Pride!

What the hell is up with this?!

no idea but its scary shit

Reblog for your friends.

Everyone reblog this.

I don’t care if you don’t live in Texas or if you are skeptical about this post PLEASE REBLOG THIS! I live In Fort worth Texas which is only four hours away and the fact that something could happen so close to home and to my fellow Texans is heart wrenching.

@boyonetta

Does anyone have any information on this? Is it legitimate, or a hoax, or what?

It’s being investigated

http://thescoopblog.dallasnews.com/2016/06/houston-police-investigating-tweet-that-threatened-massive-shooting-at-pride-parade.html/

http://abc13.com/news/fbi-probing-threatening-tweet-aimed-at-houstons-pride-parade/1387595/

- Leafeon

@anna-hates-meanies

you literally reblogged this from me

Oh. BUT U LIVE IN TEXAS ITS IMPORTAAANT

Holy shit….

PLEASE BE SAFE

What the frick… stay safe everyone okay? I dont want to see any of you hurt

shinrai-ignis: monochrome-flight-feathers: artist-rayne: the-pa...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 11:55:17 +0200

shinrai-ignis:

monochrome-flight-feathers:

artist-rayne:

the-panic-button-collector:

dimespin:

“Why do you beat yourself up so much over little mistakes?”

This is such a good illustration of emotional abuse

Just a reblog to spread the most UN noticed abuse, be aware

and reminder for everyone to be patient with your loved ones who apologize constantly, or have a really emotional reaction to something that seems insignificant to you.

…….

txmriddlx: Can you please reblog if your blog is a safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual,...

Sat, 23 Jun 2018 21:45:08 +0200

txmriddlx:

Can you please reblog if your blog is a safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, asexual, aromantic, pansexual, non binary, demisexual or any other kind of queer or questioning people? Because mine is.

labambinafantasma: akigaskarth: theconqueeror: labambinafantasma: If you’re European, in a...

Thu, 21 Jun 2018 21:22:35 +0200

labambinafantasma:

akigaskarth:

theconqueeror:

labambinafantasma:

If you’re European, in a couple of weeks you will be denied any and all access to fandom contents on Tumblr and everywhere else on the internet. Here’s why.

On June, 20th the JURI of European Parliament approved of the articles 11 and 13 of the new Copyright Law. These articles are also known as the “Link Tax” and the “Censorship Machines” articles.

Articles 13 in particular forces every internet platform to filter all the contents we upload online, ending once and for all the fandom culture. Which means you won’t be able to upload any type of fandom works like fan arts, fan fictions, gif sets from your favourite films and series, edits, because it’s all copyrighted material. And you won’t also be able to share, enjoy or download other’s contents, because the use of links will be completely restricted.

But not everything’s lost yet. There’s another round of voting scheduled for the early days of July.

What you can do now to save our internet, is to share these informations with all of your family members and friends, and to ask to your MEP (the members of the European Parliament from your country) to vote NO at the next round, to vote against articles 11 and 13.

Here you can find more news and all the details to contact your MEP:

https://saveyourinternet.eu

Also, sign and share this petition:

https://www.change.org/p/european-parliament-stop-the-censorship-machinery-save-the-internet?recruiter=50668942&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=psf_combo_share_initial

We have just a couple of weeks to stop this complete madness, don’t let them dictating the way we enjoy our internet.

#SaveYourInternet now!

It’s funny how y'all will reblog any and all US things but when whole Europe might lose access to internet then everything is quiet.

Are you fucking serious? Is this really happening? I’m European and I didn’t know a single thing about this

Here you have

https://eur-lex.europa.eu/legal-content/EN/TXT/?uri=CELEX:52016PC0593

https://creativecommons.org/2018/06/20/european-parliaments-legal-affairs-committee-gives-green-light-to-harmful-link-tax-and-pervasive-platform-censorship/?utm_source=social&utm_medium=twitterfacebook&utm_content=JURI-vote-june-20

https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/article-13-european-parliament-internet-censorship-copyright-a8408531.html?amp&__twitter_impression=true

https://amp.theguardian.com/technology/2018/jun/20/eu-votes-for-copyright-law-that-would-make-internet-a-tool-for-control?__twitter_impression=true

http://www.wired.co.uk/article/eu-meme-war-article-13-regulation

Also ao3 has spoken out about this

https://archiveofourown.org/admin_posts/10637

chainsmok3: teckmonky: be like Thor, be there to support your...

Thu, 21 Jun 2018 21:14:17 +0200

chainsmok3:

teckmonky:

be like Thor, be there to support your loved ones,accept who they are and celebrate them

WHOLESOME

gayatreus: gaynezha: Detroit: Androids face oppression! No one likes them! They are...

Thu, 21 Jun 2018 21:13:01 +0200

gayatreus:

gaynezha:

Detroit: Androids face oppression! No one likes them! They are dehumanized!

Actual literal real people I know: This is my roomba. His name is Gilbert and sometimes I drop cheetos on the floor just so he has something to snac on.

Whenever I play this game all I can think about is that story where someone coddled their roomba during a thunderstorm because “it was scared”

weirdmageddon: weirdmageddon: i feel kinda fucked up that im living in a country with a nazi...

Thu, 21 Jun 2018 08:46:46 +0200

weirdmageddon:

weirdmageddon:

i feel kinda fucked up that im living in a country with a nazi regime and not being able to do anything about it and nothing is working. we need to take to the streets in droves and riot. gather thousands of people. throw rocks at the white house. sprinkle sugar on the campgrounds where the tents are gonna be built (2 lbs of sugar can ruin up to one ton of unset concrete). or throw hydrogen peroxide filled water balloons at the exposed steel to corrode it faster because theyre literally building concentration camps in 106°F texas heat for children who cannot regulate their body temperature like adults

nobody in power is listening so we have to do it ourselves

more info on the location and science on how to destroy the building site

children count and weather source

and remember

just. fight back. please…dont just stand by. do whatever you can, spreading info is something everyone can do

ube-makaveli: revan-trevelyan: Sometimes the help you need...

Wed, 20 Jun 2018 11:22:41 +0200

ube-makaveli:

revan-trevelyan:

Sometimes the help you need isn’t the help you want. Call 1-800-273-8255 if you’re thinking of suicide.

This comic meant a whole lot to me. It was sincere in its depiction and treated the issue through the eyes of a grounded person. Not some godly hero saying everything is better than it seems, but a person trying his best before bringing her somewhere who can actually help.

heartachedreamboy: heartachedreamboy: three older motorcyclists pulled up behind my car when i was...

Wed, 20 Jun 2018 11:19:27 +0200

heartachedreamboy:

heartachedreamboy:

three older motorcyclists pulled up behind my car when i was at a stoplight and they were just. investigating. so shocked and confused. grappling with the punchline, struggling, grasping for some semblance of understanding, only to find none. i love gen z humor dumbfounding old men.

i never mentioned that this is my bumper sticker

pylertalma: ariana-news: There is nothing more infectious than the joy and love that the LGBTQ...

Wed, 20 Jun 2018 10:00:26 +0200

pylertalma:

ariana-news:

There is nothing more infectious than the joy and love that the LGBTQ community exudes. I grew up with a gay brother whose every move I would emulate. I idolized him. Everything Frankie did, I would do. I can’t remember a difference between Frankie before he came out and Frankie after he came out. He’s always just been Frankie. Sexuality and gender were never topics my family and I were afraid to discuss. When Frankie came out my surprisingly unfazed (for his age) grandfather said “Congrats! Can we go to dinner now? I’m fuckin’ hungry.”

I was taught to do my makeup by queens in gay bars in New York City. I made my Broadway debut at 14 years old and did 8 shows a week but there was never a night I was too tired to run to a gay bar and do a quick Whitney cover before bed. My music being embraced and celebrated by the LGBTQ community is all I ever truly cared about when I thought about my career goals early on. There’s no award I could win or accolade I could receive that would fulfill me more than seeing a 6-foot queen with a 4-foot ponytail walk into my meet n greet and say “hey girl” or meeting a young queer person at Starbucks and them letting me know that my music has helped them become who they are. Literally nothing. Love is like music. It knows no boundaries and isn’t exclusive to any one gender, sexuality, race, religion, age or creed. It’s a freedom and a delicious luxury that all people should be able to sink into and enjoy every moment of. I am eternally indebted to and inspired by the LGBTQ community. I hope to create anthems for you that wrap you up with comfort and make you get your best life for as long as I live. Thank you for celebrating me the way I celebrate you.

I love you forever.

- Ariana Grande’s love letter to the LGBT community